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What are your values, and why is it important to know them?

It may be a simple question, or it may not be. What are your values? What values guide your choices in life?
Why is it important to be able to articulate your three primary values? Let’s start with discovering your them. Look over the list and identify what you value most—what you use to make decisions in life.

Acceptance
Accountability
Adventure
Altruism
Appreciation
Assertiveness
Authenticity
Autonomy
Awareness
Balance
Beauty
Benevolence
Calm
Caring
Catalyst
Charity
Chastity
Citizenship
Cleanliness
Commitment
Connectedness
Compassion
Confidence
Consciousness
Consistency
Contentment
Contribute
Cooperation
Courage
Courtesy
Creativity
Critical Thinking
Curiosity
Democracy
Dependability
Detachment
Determination
Devotion
Diligence
Discipline
Discovery
Dominance
Due Process

Education
Effort
Emotion
Empathy
Endurance
Enthusiasm
Equality
Equity
Etiquette
Excellence
Experience
Fairness
Faith
Fame
Family
Fantasy
Fidelity
Focus
Foresight
Forgiveness
Fortitude
Free Will
Freedom
Friendship
Generosity
Gentleness
Giving
Gratitude
Guiding
Happiness
Helpfulness
Honesty
Honor
Hope
Hospitality
Human Dignity
Humility
Humor
Idealism
Imagination
Impact
Independence
Individualism
Influence
Inspiration
Integrity
Intuition
Inventiveness

Joy
Justice
Kindness
Knowledge
Lead
Learn
Love
Loyalty
Magnanimity
Manners
Mastery
Mercy
Moderation
Modesty
Morality
Nonviolence
Nurture
Obedience
Objectivity
Openness
Optimism
Order
Passion
Patience
Patriotism
Peace
Perfection
Perseverance
Perspective
Piety
Potential
Power
Prudence
Purpose
Recognition
Respect
Responsibility
Restraint
Risk Taking
Satisfaction
Self-Awareness
Self-Discipline
Self-Esteem
Self-Interest
Self-Reliance
Self-Respect
Sensitivity
Service
Sharing
Simplicity
Sincerity
Sociability
Socialism
Spirituality
Status
Success
Sympathy
Tact
Teach
Temperance
Tenacity
Thrift
Time
Tolerance
Tradition
Trust
Truth
Understanding
Unity
Unpretentiousness
Unselfishness
Utility
Wealth
Well-Being
Winning
Wisdom
Zeal

 

It’s difficult to narrow down your “Top 3” values, but there are ways to do it—ask several people close to you (family member, co-worker, boss, friend) what they consider your values to be and cross-check them with what you’ve written down. What feels correct to you?

In order to lead a fulfilling, authentic life, your values need to be in alignment with your purpose or “North Star.”

Are they?

Often, when life starts to get out of control or there is dysfunction in one or more areas of a person’s life, that’s where our values are being challenged and more than likely, we’re violating them on some level. By being aware of what our values are, it’s much less likely we’ll get in a spot where we’re willing to violate them, and our essential selves.